Your self-esteem begins to be undermined by things people told you and feelings about negative experiences you had when you were young. Many people have been treated poorly and told they won’t amount to much or compared to another child.


Even when we were treated well by family, there are things that can happen over the years of our childhood and teen age years that can affect our self-esteem. Those little things can accumulate and affect the way we operate as an adult.


rejectedYou can use EFT to help release some of the negative feelings around these issues. Try thinking back on anything in your childhood that made you feel embarrassed, rejected or not good enough. If you were always picked last for the sports team or felt left out in some way. Things like this stay in our subconscious and can cause you to hold back in your network marketing business or other things you are striving to accomplish in your life.


Think of some of these incidents that happened in the past. Take notice how strong the negative feeling is on a scale between 0-10. Ten being the most most powerful negative feeling.


Now as you start tapping, think of how you felt. Tap through the points in the EFT Tapping Script below. Keep going through the first part with the negative until you feel the negative emotion drop to zero. Young Living Essential Oils users may want to use Release Essential Oil blend with this part of the process.


Once you get the negative feeling down to zero, you can do some positive feeling tapping. Use a mood uplifting essential oil blend for this part. I like Joy or Acceptance oil blends for the second part of the EFT session where you shift to forward moving energy and mindset.


You can change the script below to fit whatever feelings or issues you want. The important thing is to feel and release the negative feelings around the incidents. You can do this over and over with anything you want. Sometimes as you are tapping, you will remember other incidents that bother you. You could add those to a list of things to tap next.


Start on the Karate Chop Point
If you know of something specific that has contributed to lower self esteem, you can tap on that.Release Essential Oil with EFT If you are not sure what to tap on, you can tap on some general


Even though they told me I’d never amount to anything, I deeply and completely love and accept myself.
Even though I don’t feel good about myself, I deeply love and accept myself
Even though a part of me doesn’t like myself at all, I deeply and completely accept myself anyway.
Even though I am not worthy of success, I deeply and completely love and accept myself.


Round One: Focusing on the Feelings


(eyebrow) I don’t like myself much.
(side of eye) I am having trouble accepting myself.
(under eye) I feel defective and don’t feel confident.
(nose) I don’t think I’ll ever accept myself.
(chin) I don’t like myself.
(collarbone) I don’t accept who I am.
(under arm) I They told me I was not good enough.
(head) I don’t like myself.


Keep repeating round one until you feel the negative emotions are released.


Round Two: Implant Positive
(eyebrow) What if I could like myself?
(side of eye) They were wrong to say I wouldn’t amount to much
(under eye) I know they were wrong!
(nose) I have so many wonderful qualities.
(chin) People are drawn to me because of my magnetic personality.
(collarbone) I choose to recognize my own unique qualities.
(under arm) I appreciate who I am now.
(head) I am so grateful for my growing self-esteem.


Try using EFT to release things that would block your network marketing success. Listen to your intuition when using oils with EFT. There are many Young Living Oil blends that can be used for emotional clearing with EFT. Use whatever oil feels right. It will likely be a good one.


Marketing systems, tools and training are important for success in network marketing but the most important success tool is your thinking.


Three mistakes That Can Shipwreck Your Network Marketing Business


1. Not Taking Personal Development and Self-esteem Building Seriously: If you don’t have a love for yourself and a strong self-esteem, you will NOT care enough to do what it takes to build a business that actually earns income. You will not care enough about your dreams to make things happen. This may sound a little funny to some but it’s really important.


Jim Rohn said, “If you don’t design your own life plan, chances are you’ll fall into someone else’s plan. And guess what they have planned for you? Not much.”


Without personal development, you won’t build confidence and self-esteem in yourself and your business. Your prospects will pick up on that.


If you have a love for yourself you will invest in your life plan. Network marketing is an industry that has a high failure rate. That’s not because the business model is bad, it’s because people jump in with dreams of making a lot of money but they don’t realize they need to invest in their success. Investing not only time but money. Yes, I said money! Invest in training books, audios and courses. Things that help you grow your skills, and yes, that includes building self-esteem. As you get more training and skills, your self-esteem and confidence grows.


2. Focusing on the Wrong Things: Fear of failure is one of the big obstacles distributors struggle with. We all deal with it to some degree but we must focus on the right things if we want to get where we want to go. Don’t focus on every temporary setback and bump in the road. Focus on what you want to achieve, the road ahead of you, keeping the goal or your WHY in mind.


Think of it like driving a car and going on vacation at the ocean. When you drive your car anywhere you are looking at the road ahead but you are looking in the distance, not at every bump or pothole in the road. If you spend too much time looking at the bumps and holes on the surface of the road, you can end up missing something really big. You can even end up in a ditch. While you will notice holes and bumps, you aren’t looking at them with full attention. You just notice enough to make corrections in your course, all the while keeping your attention on the goal ahead of you: Your arrival at the ocean and enjoying a wonderful vacation.


Your business is similar. Focus on what you want to achieve in your business and your WHY! Don’t let the bumps along the way derail you.


3. Letting Negative People In Your Life Derail Your Success: This one sort of goes along with the previous one. These negative people can be a bump in the road. Are you going to let them derail your success? This is why it is SUPER IMPORTANT to attend as many network marketing and company events as possible. Some events require us leaving the house but many are available to us through conference calls and webinars. These events keep us going and act like an antidote to the poison of negative people. Negative people can poison our dreams and make us give up.


I’m just like you. I have had to deal with negative people. In the beginning it was a real challenge. My own husband was negative. He didn’t believe we could build a business. Back then I was “spending too much time on the computer.” Today he’s delighted I worked hard on the business. He works with me from home.


I remember one relative telling us to “Quit selling herbs and get a real job.”


We all have negative people in our life. These people love us and they think they are helping but they unknowingly poison our dreams if we let them. We can’t let them do that. Our diligent attention to personal development can help us remain strong and focused on our goals. Hanging around successful people will help offset the negative energy and help keep our vision in view.


Network marketing is an awesome business. Keep moving forward and never give up.


A while back I saw this video and it struck me how this little girl’s parents must have been teaching her to have good self esteem. Watch the video and the way this little girl is talking into the mirror and listen to what she is saying.




I think this morning routine is a good idea for all of us who are building self esteem. Repeating affirmations is a great way to reprogram your thinking but, even better is to tap the EFT Points while speaking your affirmations. This is much more powerful and sets the body’s energy in alignment with what you are speaking.


Try it! It’s powerful!


Wishing you Abundant Success,